Top 380 Roxane Gay Quotes (2024 Update)
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251. “To read narrowly and shallowly is to read from a place of ignorance.”

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252. “Sometimes we try to convince ourselves of things that are not true, reframing the past to better explain the present.”

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253. “These kids didn’t know how to read so I got them dictionaries, and because they were too shy to discuss literacy in meetings, they would catch me walking across campus or in my office and whisper, “I need help reading.” It had never crossed my mind before that it was possible for a child to be educated in this country and make it to college unable to read at a college level. Shame on me, certainly, for being so ignorant about the galling disparities in how children are educated. Shame on me.”

— Roxane Gay

254. “I buried the girl I had been because she ran into all kinds of trouble. I tried to erase every memory of her, but she is still there, somewhere. She is still small and scared and ashamed, an.”

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255. “He’s the kind of man who gets ideas but is largely unable to follow through on those ideas.”

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256. “Movies, more often than not, tell the stories of men as if men’s stories are the only stories that matter. When women are involved, they are sidekicks, the romantic interests, the afterthoughts. Rarely do women get to be the center of attention. Rarely do our stories get to matter.”

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257. “I’ve noticed while cooking, how ingredients in their individual and naked state and be a bit repulsive but necessary, kind of like people.”

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258. “Late at night, when they lay together, as much of their bodies touching as possible, Anna and Parker had the conversations they could have only with each other. They tried to remember the before, when they were children and there was only one place to call home, one country, the flag billowing on windy days in front of homes up and down every street – bands of red and white, fifty stars, one nation, indivisible until it wasn’t, how quickly it all came apart.”

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259. “The part I wanted them to understand is that these equations can implode, constricting your whole life, until one day you’re sitting in a locked steel box breathing through an airhole with a straw and wondering, ‘Now? Now am I safe?”

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260. “I appreciate that at least some of who I am rises out of the worst day of my life and I don’t want to change who I am.”

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261. “I’ve always wanted to be a writer. I’ve been writing since I was probably four years old – it was nonsense, but it was still my little attempts at being a storyteller.”

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262. “Disagreement, however, is not anger.”

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263. “Want nothing but the best for your friends because when your friends are happy and successful, it’s probably going to be easier for you to be happy.”

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264. “Deal with your resentment. Deal with your biases. Vigorously resist the urge to dismiss the gender problem. Make the effort and make the effort and make the effort until you no longer need to, until we don’t need to keep having this conversation. Change.”

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265. “A woman who cleaned their homes had such a naturally fine body while they stretched themselves taut with the finest surgeons in South Florida and didn’t look half as good. It wasn’t fair. Money was supposed to make things fair.”

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266. “I hate these shows, but clearly I watch them. I watch them even though sometimes they enrage me and sometimes they break my heart and all too often they reveal painfully familiar experiences of loneliness, depression, and genuine suffering born of living in a world that cannot accommodate overweight bodies. I watch these shows because even though I know how damaging and unrealistic they are, some part of me still yearns for the salvation they promise.”

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267. “I deny myself gentler kinds of affection – to touch or be kindly touched – as if that is a pleasure a body like mine does not deserve.”

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268. “What has fascinated me about cooking, and coming to it in the middle of my life, is how it’s actually a really good endeavor for a control freak. There are rules, and to succeed, at least in the early going, those rules need to be followed. I am good at following rules when I choose to.”

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269. “I could easily become a shut-in, hiding from the cruelty of the world. Most days it takes all my strength and no small amount of courage to get dressed and leave the house.”

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270. “I often say that reading and writing saved my life. I mean that quite literally.”

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271. “Better is not good enough, and it’s a shame that anyone would be willing to settle for so little.”

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272. “I am still writing my way toward a place where I fit.”

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273. “I am quite content to be in my thirties, and nothing affirms that more than being around people in their late teens and early twenties.”

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274. “We live in a strange and terrible time for women. There are days when I think it has always been a strange and terrible time to be a woman.”

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275. “These oldest pictures have been in the album so long that they are stuck to the pages. To try and remove the pictures would ruin them.”

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276. “I do not suffer from ignorance where exercise is related. I suffer from inertia.”

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277. “I am not good at romantic interactions that aren’t furtive and kind of sleazy. I don’t know how to ask someone on a date. I don’t know how to gauge the potential interest of other human beings. I don’t know how to trust people who do express interest in me. I am not the girl who “gets the date” in these circumstances, or that’s what I cannot help but tell myself. I am always paralyzed by self-doubt and mistrust.”

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278. “It was a moment when I understood that all of us have to be more considerate of the realities of the bodies of others.”

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279. “I minded how they thought I expected too much from them where the definition of “too much” was to have any expectations at all.”

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280. “Too often, we fail to ask ourselves what sacrifices we will make for the greater good. What stands will we take? We expect role models to model the behaviors we are perfectly capable of modeling ourselves.”

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281. “Their God is angry and unkind because they made him in their image.”

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282. “Writers cannot protect their readers from themselves, nor should they be expected to.”

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283. “Human endurance fascinates me, probably too much because more often than not, I think of life in terms of enduring instead of living.”

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284. “I no longer need the body fortress I built. I need to tear down some of the walls, and I need to tear down those walls for me and me alone, no matter what good may come of that demolition. I think of it as undestroying myself.”

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285. “As individuals, we may not be able to do much, but when we’re silent when someone uses the word “gay” as an insult, we are falling short. When we don’t vote to support equal marriage rights for all, we are falling short. When we support musicians like Tyler, the Creator, we are falling short. We are failing our communities. We are failing civil rights. There are injustices great and small, and even if we can only fight the small ones, at least we are fighting.”

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286. “I was a little resentful that when a woman writes, her personal story becomes part of the story, even though the novel is fiction.”

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287. “We were three hours from Chicago, so my blackness was less of a curiosity, more of a threat. And there were the black students on campus, the nerve of them, daring to pursue higher education. In the local newspaper, residents wrote angry letters about a new criminal element – the scourge of youthful black ambition, black joy. In my more generous moments, I tried to believe the locals were using anger to mask their fear of living in a dying town in a changing world.”

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288. “Feminists are celebrating our victories and acknowledging our privilege when we have it. We’re simply refusing to settle. We’re refusing to forget how much work there is yet to be done. We’re refusing to relish the comforts we have at the expense of the women who are still seeking comfort.”

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289. “There are books written by women. There are books written by men. Somehow, though, it is only books by women, or books about certain topics, that require this special “women’s fiction” designation, particularly when those books have the audacity to explore, in some manner, the female experience, which, apparently, includes the topics of marriage, suburban existence, and parenthood, as if women act alone in these endeavors, wedding themselves, immaculately conceiving children, and the like.”

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290. “Part of the reason relationships and friendships can be so difficult for me is because there is a part of me that thinks I have to get things just right. I have to say the right things and do the right things or I won’t be liked or loved anymore.”

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291. “The problem with movements is that, all too often, they are associated only with the most visible figures, the people with the biggest platforms and the loudest, most provocative voices.”

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292. “I don’t want my lover seeing only a moment from my assault when they look at me. I don’t want them to think me more fragile than I am. I am stronger than I am broken. I don’t want them, or anyone, to think I am nothing more than the worst thing that has ever happened to me.”

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293. “There is a plague on grandmothers. The elder relations of my students begin passing away at an alarming rate one week. I want to warn the surviving grandmothers, somehow. I want them to live.”

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294. “Honey, you’re not crazy. You’re a woman.”

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295. “He has told me, “I am only telling you what no one else will,” but of course, he is telling me what the world is always telling me, everywhere I go.”

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296. “Living in a rural town really compelled me to start tweeting so much. Mostly, my Twitter usage is fueled by loneliness. I can go days without talking to another human being unless it’s my mother, especially when I’m not teaching or on break.”

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297. “The older we get, the more labels and categories we collect.”

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298. “Because I read so much, I was a romantic in my heart of hearts, but my desire to be part of a romantic story was a very intellectual, detached one. I liked the idea of a boy asking me out, taking me on a date, kissing me, but I did not want to actually be alone with a boy, because a boy could hurt me.”

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299. “A girl is a girl whether she lives in West Omaha or Sweet Valley. Books are often far more than just books.”

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300. “I reserve my most elaborate delusions and disappointments for myself.”

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