Top 380 Roxane Gay Quotes (2024 Update)
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301. “A woman should always have the right to choose what she does with her body. It is frustrating that this needs to be said, repeatedly.”

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302. “Cooking reminds me that I am capable of taking care of myself and worthy of taking care of and nourishing myself.”

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303. “Things often go wrong and cooking can be messy, but the act of creating something from disparate ingredients still remains satisfying. Cooking reminds me that I am capable of taking care of myself and worthy of taking care of and nourishing myself.”

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304. “The problem with movements is that, all too often, they are associated only with the most visible figures, the people with the biggest platforms and the loudest, most provocative voices. But feminism is not whatever philosophy is being spouted by the popular media feminist flavor of the week, at least not entirely.”

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305. “This is what is so rarely said about unlikable women in fiction – that they aren’t pretending, that they won’t or can’t pretend to be someone they are not. They have neither the energy for it nor the desire.”

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306. “What I remind myself, regularly, is this: the acknowledgment of my privilege is not a denial of the ways I have been and am marginalized, the ways I have suffered.”

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307. “It seems that, if something makes you feel better, it is a healthy option. Want to sleep all day? That’s okay. Drink too much? That can be a valid coping choice. Isolating yourself via a fear of the outside world? Self-preservation is important.”

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308. “I have no idea how I got to be the one at the front of the classroom, the one who gets to be in charge of things. Most of the time, I feel like the kid who gets to sit at the adult table for the first time at Thanksgiving. I’m not sure which fork to use. My feet can’t reach the floor.”

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309. “On the scale of relevance, public approval or disapproval of a woman’s choices should not merit measure.”

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310. “No one gets to rake over the details of my life and determine if they think what happened to me was bad enough for me to have earned my scars, my limitations, my superpowers.”

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311. “I am not the same scared girl that I was. I have let the right ones in.”

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312. “My body is a cage, but this is my cage and there are moments where I take pride in it.”

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313. “I wanted a relationship where I could be independent but loved and looked after at the same time.”

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314. “Even from a young age I understood that when a girl is unlikable, a girl is a problem.”

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315. “Twitter has allowed the conversation to broaden and become more inclusive. At times, the conversation is really tense but that’s because we’re talking about really important issues. It’s not going to be easy but at least the conversations are happening.”

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316. “There is always a moment when I am losing weight when I feel better in my body. I breathe easier. I move better. I feel myself getting smaller and stronger. My clothes fall over my body the way they should and then they start to get baggy. I get terrified. I start to worry about my body becoming more vulnerable as it grows smaller. I start to imagine all the ways I could be hurt. I start to remember all the ways I have been hurt.”

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317. “We don’t necessarily know how to hear stories about any kind of violence, because it is hard to accept that violence is as simple as it is complicated, that you can love someone who hurts you, that you can stay with someone who hurts you, that you can be hurt by someone who loves you, that you can be hurt by a complete stranger, that you can be hurt in so many terrible, intimate ways.”

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318. “Summary If a boy treats you like you’re special, it’s probably because he wants to come and not because you are a treasure he discovered. You are not a treasure. You are a thing a boy can use to make him ejaculate. This makes sense because you already believe this at your core. You have been taught.”

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319. “As a naturally shy person, I loved the anonymity of writing before my career took off. I loved how my stories didn’t care about my weight. When I started publishing that writing, I loved that, to my readers, what mattered were the words on the page. Through writing, I was, finally, able to gain respect for the content of my character.”

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320. “I realized that when writing about trauma, you have to be prepared to handle not only your own trauma but being exposed to the trauma of others.”

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321. “I’m undestroying myself after years of allowing myself to stay damaged.”

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322. “When I wake up, my mouth is thick and sour. I groan and sit up, and hit my head against something unfamiliar. I wince. Everything in my head feels loose, lost.”

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323. “Feminism is a choice, and if a woman does not want to be a feminist, that is her right, but it is still my responsibility to fight for her rights. I believe feminism is grounded in supporting the choices of women even if we wouldn’t make certain choices for ourselves. I believe women not just in the United States but throughout the world deserve equality and freedom but know I am in no position to tell women of other cultures what that equality and freedom should look like.”

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324. “The ways in which I am my mother’s daughter are infinite.”

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325. “I don’t save lives, but I try not to ruin them.”

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326. “There is no way to truly know whom we need to protect ourselves from.”

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327. “Angry women are always the villains.”

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328. “My heart received even less consideration than my body, so I tried to lock it away but never quite succeeded.”

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329. “Every time I watch a yogurt commercial I think, my god, I want to be that happy. I really do.”

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330. “We tend to believe that accusations of privilege imply we have it easy, which we resent because life is hard for nearly everyone.”

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331. “When you look past the image, a celebrity is merely a person you know nothing about.”

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332. “The majority of people who are stopped and frisked in New York are black or Latino because these demographics fit our cultural profile of danger. These are the supposed barbarians at the gate, not the boy with the “soulful brown eyes.”

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333. “To change the world, we need to face what has become of it. To heal from a trauma, we need to understand the extent of it.”

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334. “If you are reading this essay, you have some kind of privilege. It may be hard to hear that, I know, but if you cannot recognize your privilege, you have a lot of work to do; get started.”

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335. “The body is not a fortress, no matter what we may do to make it such.”

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336. “She grabbed me and pulled me into a warm embrace. Just as quickly she pushed me away. She said, “Thank you for getting on my nerves for so long,” and I said, “You’re welcome, Lorraine.” We have talked three or four times a week ever since. She is family.”

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337. “I was always a good girl. I was a straight-A student, top of my class. I did as I was told. I was polite to my elders. I was good to my siblings. I went to church. It was very easy to hide how very bad I was becoming from my family, from everyone. Being good is the best way to be bad.”

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338. “You are willing to be abused for the mirage of fame in the desert of your life.”

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339. “One of my favorite moments is when a guy, at that certain point in a relationship, says something desperately hopeful like, ‘Are you on the pill?’ I simply say, ‘No, are you?”

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340. “I am determined to be more than my body – what my body has endured, what my body has become.”

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341. “Any number of celebrities are dogged by “gay rumors” because we cannot quite place them into a given category. We act like placing these people in categories will have some impact on our lives, or that creating these categories is our responsibility, when, most of the time, such taxonomy won’t change anything at all.”

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342. “They require a diagnosis for her unlikability in order to tolerate her. The simplest explanation, of Mavis as human, will not suffice.”

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343. “At sixty minutes, I calmly stopped pedaling, peeled my shirt away from my skin, wiped the bike down, and slowly exited the room.”

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344. “Rosin is not wrong that life has improved in measurable ways for women, but she is wrong in suggesting that better is good enough.”

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345. “The waters did not run deep. It was just a border between two geographies of grief.”

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346. “People in town didn’t understand Anna and largely believed her to be godless, a designation she rather enjoyed because she understood that in their community, to be godless was to have a mind of one’s own.”

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347. “The past is written on my body.”

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348. “She didn’t care if he was telling the truth. Milly felt nothing but she was very good at making men think otherwise. Sometimes, she nearly convinced herself.”

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349. “I do not love easy.”

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350. “She was a mess. So what? We are all stinking messes, every last one of us, or we once were messes and found our way out, or we are trying to find our way out of a mess, scratching, reaching.”

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