Top 380 Roxane Gay Quotes (2024 Update)
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351. “It is far more important to discuss power than to exhaustively regurgitate the harmful cultural effects of power structures where women are consistently marginalized. We already know the effects. We live them and try to overcome them.”

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352. “It’s scary believing that you, as you are, could ever be enough.”

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353. “There’s certainly a portion of my brain that is always tuned to making wry observations about the world, but that portion of my brain was alive and well before Twitter.”

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354. “For many, many years to come, I would keep telling myself that the barest minimum of acknowledgment from lovers was enough.”

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355. “On my more difficult days, I’m not sure what’s more of a pain in my ass – being black or being a woman. I’m happy to be both of these things, but the world keeps intervening.”

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356. “I made my choice. There is nothing you cannot do when you are no one.”

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357. “The waters did not run deep. It was just a border between two geographies of grief.”

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358. “Rosin is not wrong that life has improved in measurable ways for women, but she is wrong in suggesting that better is good enough.”

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359. “She didn’t care if he was telling the truth. Milly felt nothing but she was very good at making men think otherwise. Sometimes, she nearly convinced herself.”

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360. “The past is written on my body.”

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361. “I do not love easy.”

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362. “When I read, I could forget.”

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363. “The moment we see a pop artifact offering even a sliver of something different – say, a woman who isn’t a size zero or who doesn’t treat a man as the center of the universe – we cling to it desperately because that representation is all we have.”

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364. “I am as healed as I am ever going to be. I have accepted that I will never be the girl I could have been if, if, if.”

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365. “Reading remains one of the purest things I do.”

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366. “People love a real tragedy when they think it cannot happen to them.”

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367. “This is the memoir of my body. My body was broken. I was broken. I did not know how to put myself back together. I was splintered. A part of me was dead. A part of me was mute and would stay that way for many years.”

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368. “He was so kind to me and never wanted anything from me but friendship. That was something of a revelation to me, that a young man could be kind.”

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369. “Do my boundaries exist if I don’t voice them?”

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370. “But “am” doesn’t seem right either. To “be” a body suggests that you are only a body. You are meat and some blood. You are hard bones and flexing cartilage. You are tangled veins and skin. Is that all, though?”

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371. “I felt so utterly alone and because I no longer need the layers of protection I built around myself but pulling those layers back is harder than I could have ever imagined.”

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372. “There is a video of the attack too because this is the future. The unspeakable will be televised.”

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373. “I pretended to be anyone but myself, hoping I could lose myself in the virtual world. I wanted to lose myself because I was losing my mind.”

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374. “Often in literary criticism, writers are told that a character isn’t likable, as if a character’s likability is directly proportional to the quality of a novel’s writing.”

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375. “It is hard to write about happy things when you can never escape the kind of cold that sinks into your bones and stays there. I am in Siberia, I decide. I am comforted by thoughts of exile, cold solace, meditation, and inspiration born of emotional deprivation. It is all very dramatic.”

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376. “Many unlicensed women took to other women because they had no need to put up with men. Seraphina envied them that, too.”

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377. “Sometimes suffering becomes more bearable when you can share the whole truth of it.”

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378. “Because I have so many deeply held opinions about gender equality, I feel a lot of pressure to live up to certain ideals. I am supposed to be a good feminist who is having it all, doing it all. Really, though, I’m a woman in her thirties struggling to accept herself and her credit score. For so long I told myself I was not this woman – utterly human and flawed. I worked overtime to be anything but this woman, and it was exhausting and unsustainable and even harder than simply embracing who I am.”

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379. “One of my biggest weaknesses, one that has always shamed me, is that I have always been lonely. I’ve struggled to make friends because I can be socially awkward, because I’m weird, because I live in my head. When I was young, we moved around a lot, so there was rarely any time to get to know a new place, let alone new people. Loneliness was the one familiar thing, making me this bottomless pit of need, open and gaping and desperate for anything to fill me up.”

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380. “I took it for granted that this is what all families did – come together and become an island unto themselves, the kitchen table the sun around which we revolved.”

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381. “Because in Atlas Shrugged, alpha male Francisco d’Anconia tells railroad company VP Dagny Taggart that she sounds happy in her new relationship: “’But, you see, the measure of the hell you’re able to endure is the measure of your love.”

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382. “Frequently, the person I just told would need me to be supportive while they went through a range of emotions and feelings, sometimes very intensely, and then they would usually tell me nothing would change in how they felt about me. And then things would change.”

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383. “Words cannot fill the faithless with faith.”

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384. “It is your privilege that shapes what you get to worry about and it is a lack of privilege that shapes what she must worry about.”

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385. “We need to end the system where it is only white men who decide when a woman – in any position, “privileged” or not – is deserving of power and agency.”

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386. “At some point, New York stopped being the city of my dreams because it stopped being merely an idea to be a part of. New York was very real and very complicated.”

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387. “Few things work in practice as well as they do in theory. Justice is anything but blind. All too often, the people who most need justice benefit the least. The statistics about who is incarcerated and how incarceration affects their future prospects are bleak.”

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388. “These are little bits of things that happened, or things you think about. They’re light on tension, you know that. There’s no real peril. There’s no resolution. Still, they stick with you. You think about them even after they’re over, sometimes for a long time. Sometimes for a very long time. That’s how you know they’re important somehow. It’s why you can recall the smell of that party, even many years after the smell of your grandfather’s cologne has faded from your memory.”

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389. “Then they will revise backward. They will take every opinion they’ve ever heard from you, every personality trait, every action, and recast them in light of what you told them.”

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390. “Already that semester, the university had been steeped in controversy after students at a freshman week welcome event had been reported chanting: “We like ’em young! Y is for your sister, O is for oh so tight, U is for underage, N is for no consent, G is for go to jail.”

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391. “When I am eating a meal, I have no sense of portion control. I am a completist. If the food is on my plate, I must finish it.”

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392. “Two years ago, Hanna said she was going on vacation with Laura downstate and instead drove to Marquette and had her tubes tied. She wasn’t going to end up like her mother, with too many children in a too-small house with too little to eat. Despite her best efforts, however, she has found herself living in a too-small house with too many people and too little to eat. It is a bitter pill to swallow.”

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393. “I also have to live with being the type of woman who might – or probably always will – feel guilty that she never told this man she’s trans.”

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